Few people survive “old age” on their own.
Those who have a plan or people around them who are thinking a couple steps ahead are more apt to have a more pleasant or least tolerable experience in their final years.
The book Circles of Care: How to Set Up Quality Home Care for Our Elders (Shambhala Publications, 2001) by Ann Cason is a good initial resource for people. The book is much more than the title indicates.
This is a good read for anyone with a loved one in their periphery who is aging—a spouse, parent, friend, grandparent, etc. Using real life case studies makes the book easy to read and relate to.
It gives insight into how people react to things as they age, their behavior, and ideas for coping with people as they age. It touches on the physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual journeys people are on.
My friend, Sally, loaned me the book thinking parts of it might resonate with me. She was spot on.